Updated: Sep 6, 2020
When I first flew the corporate coup and went out on my own, it was like watching a baby fawn walk for the first time. Or, maybe it just felt like that. I was so uncertain of how to show up in this new world of entrepreneurialism. I had to learn for the first time, what does one do all day when they no longer need to report to an office, punch a clock, build widgets and participate in meetings for the sake of meeting?
At first, it was tough. Luckily, I was already in the habit of getting up early to workout. A daily practice that I still keep, albeit no longer at 5:30 AM (or 4:45 AM when I taught spin classes). This helped keep a rhythm to the start of my day, but then it all seemed to fall apart after the gym. Jumping around from one shiny object to another, made me feel busy, yet hollow and unsatisfied.
Over the past three years, I've learned a few things:
Resources: There are a ton of books out there to help a new entrepreneur structure her day. My favorite book is called The One Thing by Gary Keller. My little sister is a Keller Williams agent and they all had to read this book. She sent it to me (in year 2 of my journey) and it was something I really wished I had out of the gate.
What Works for Others May Not Work for You: This is OK. Don't get hung up on the fact that someone you know said you should book all of your sales calls on Tuesday mornings, your content development on Wednesday nights and stand on your head on Thursday. If it doesn't feel right to you, explore a new solution.
Be Honest with Yourself: If you're like me, one struggle I had over the years is that even though I had my own business (which is what I wanted), I still felt unsettled in my endeavors. This propelled me to jump from one project to another at the suggestion of colleagues or friends in a secret search of my purpose. Ladies, don't fall into the trap. If you have expertise in an industry, this doesn't automatically mean it is your purpose. If you're feeling resistance in the work you do, it's a sign to look inward and ask, "Am I chasing too many rabbits?" If so, ask, "If I had to pick one, which one lights me up when I talk about it?"
Your life is not a test run.
It took me a minute to get to this point. I used to lay in bed and wonder what my life would be like if I knew exactly what I wanted earlier in my career. These thoughts just resulted in unwarranted pressure and sleepless nights. Instead of wishing I could do it all over again, why not squeeze the most out of every experience and enjoy the process of self-discovery, enlightenment and contribution I can make upon the world?
As I share the above, I'm unfolding yet another layer of my own life experience. I am learning every day how to explore and unwrap the gifts I'm meant to share. I am learning to embrace every twist and turn with the knowing that the straightaway is coming and it will be time to accelerate.
If you allow it, regret and resistance will steal away the gifts you've been too busy to unwrap.
This is your reminder.
Life is not a test run.
Keep moving forward, the world wants to hear what you have to say - are you ready to unwrap your gifts together?